This week is the Mental Health Foundation’s Mental Health Awareness Week. This year’s theme is kindness.
The American politician Bob Kerrey once said, ‘Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.’. This is never truer than where a family is in turmoil. In a word association game, kindness and divorce / family conflict would not normally be linked. As family lawyers we see the best and worst of behaviours. An act of kindness may not be easy. Kindness shown in the most difficult and emotionally charged of situations is truly inspiring. It takes courage and requires a leap of faith. It is not ‘backing down’ or opening ourselves to being taken advantage of. It is never wasted; it changes lives for the better and influences how our children view the foundations on which relationships are built. Those positive relationships help to build families, communities and a society in which we can all feel more protected and cared for.
Kindness shown during a family breakdown is often unexpected, can have a transformative effect and lead to a respectful relationship that benefits everyone in the family, especially children. Kindness may be a positive act, for example sending the children to their ex’s with a card and cake on mother’s day / father’s day / birthdays. Or, where faced with a protracted court case, those who instead of bad-mouthing the other parent, say only positives about them to their children. Kindness helps the healing of emotional scars, for the giver, receiver and for their children.
Rayden solicitors’ core values of clarity, commitment and confidence help our clients face the challenges of family breakdown. Our clear advice makes complicated situations less confusing and we work with clients on strategies and solutions. We commit to our clients, listening to their concerns, needs and objectives. We instil confidence in our clients for the future.